The Dance of Anger: Learning from Lerner

by Patrick Rathbun | Aug 18, 2022 | Anger, Men Helping Men

Couples therapists are trained to observe, understand and illuminate patterns of behavior, particularly ones that get us into trouble. Many of these patterns emerge when we attempt to regulate our nervous system (cope). Like Tolstoy’s famous quote regarding how...

On The Importance of Breaking Promises

by Kerry Lusignan | Aug 24, 2020 | Anger, Marriage

I’ve been a promise keeper for most of my life, only breaking promises when left with no other choice – when a murmur in my heart began pounding so loud that it overruled me. There was the relationship that lacked kindness and mutuality – the friendship laced in...

Anxious Attachment: What Your Relationship Style Says About You

by Staff Writer | Jan 29, 2019 | Anger, Conflict, Courage

I think most of us can agree that relationships are difficult. But it is the “why” behind this statement that causes the most confusion. Why are romantic commitments so hard to maintain? Is it the stress of work? Money? Kids? Who washes the dishes? Or, is it simply...

Domestic Violence or Conflict?

by Staff Writer | Jun 14, 2018 | Anger, Conflict, Crisis, Vulnerability

Exploring Power Dynamics in Relationships with Catherine Hodes, LICSW Earlier this year, NCCT’s Intake Coordinator, Catherine Hodes, MSW, LICSW, was published in the Clinical Social Work Journal. Her paper, co-authored with Dr. Annelise Mennicke and titled “Is it...

7 Things to Consider When Choosing a Marriage Counseling Retreat

by Staff Writer | May 15, 2018 | Anger, Conflict, Crisis, Divorce, Retreats

Whether you’re experiencing marital distress or just temporary gridlock, it can be difficult to know where to turn for help. With online therapy and a wealth of marriage retreat options available across the nation, separating the wheat from the chaff can feel like an...

The Most Crucial Relationship Skill You Can Have

by Kerry Lusignan | Sep 23, 2017 | Anger, Conflict, Gottman

Being able to shift gears in the heat of an argument and initiate a thoughtful break may be one of the most crucial relationship skills. Breaks can afford you time to cool down, deepen your perspective and have a successful re-do with your partner. But for these to be...